Perfectionism

Perfectionism often sounds like a strength — high standards, strong motivation, attention to detail. But when perfectionism is driven by fear, self-doubt, or the belief that your worth depends on constant achievement, it can become exhausting and limiting.

People struggling with perfectionism may:

• Feel anxious or overwhelmed by fear of failure
• Avoid starting tasks unless they’re sure they can do them “perfectly”
• Struggle with procrastination, burnout, or low self-esteem
• Have difficulty relaxing, making mistakes, or setting boundaries
• Tie their self-worth to productivity, appearance, or approval from others

Perfectionism often shows up alongside anxiety, OCD, burnout, imposter syndrome, or people-pleasing. It can also be shaped by cultural, family, or identity-based pressures — especially in environments where success and approval are deeply linked.

In therapy, we work together to explore the roots of perfectionism and develop a more flexible, self-compassionate way of relating to yourself. This doesn't mean "lowering your standards" — it means loosening the grip of fear, so you can lead with values rather than pressure.